Anyone live in Missouri and want to meet up?
I live in Warrensburg but am open to traveling. meet up, Shoot, eat, conversate.
been a lone wolf for too long, I'm ready to join a pack!
Jonathan G Weber
Afternoon Kris, I am a fellow War Poet also. Been watching John for several years on youtube and subscribed to WPSN on day 1. I am located in Peculiar, MO. In case you don't know, that is roughly 15 minutes south of Lee's Summit. Besides the family, I am also a lone wolf. I tried putting something on here a while back, but got no response. If you are interested hit me back here and we can trade contact info.
I'm in springfield missouri. Anyone still on here?
Honestly, my best advice, is go to church every Sunday for two months. After service, hang out in the lobby for 15 minutes. In the area of the country you're in, that church has a security team. You stand around in the lobby with your thumbs hooked on your belt for 8 Sundays and one of them is bound to come up and strike up a convo (if only to determine that you're not a threat). You've just made contact with some of the coolest guys in the church. And they know who the other cools guys in the area are. Say you're doing a bonfire, and tell them just to bring sweet tea or a case of soda, you have the meat covered (they WILL come, trust me). Buy some brats or burgers n buns and get a fire pit going. The first meeting will be like, you and 2 or three other guys. Have fun, be cool, look to build a dynamic team. Who's the talker? Who's the listener? invite the listener to talk. Plan out good questions to ask in advance to get guys talking. Don't be too touchy feely, but don't be un-emotional either. Example: Are you a father? How has that been? If you're not a father, was that your desire? Why? How did you meet your wife? Have you ever been divorced?
There are men like you, looking for this sort of thing, all over the place. But men like us are a little freaked out about meeting folks from message boards. Nobody wants to play 'fed or serial killer' around a bonfire :) So get off that keyboard, buy some brats, build a fire pit, and get your butt to church.
Sonny Garcia
P.S., the bonfire invite is, like 3-4 weeks after first contact. Don't just be:
"I'm from security what's up?"
"HEY WANNA COME TO MY BONFIRE?!?"
That's weird.
You meet the cool guys, and you stand in their circle after/between services for a few weeks. Shoot, get involved with a ministry.
The issue is that a lot of us have forgotten how to make friends. I had. That's for sure. Then one day I watched my daugther at the park, and she walked up to some kids and said 'Do you wanna be friends' and they said "No" so she walked up to another group of kids and asked the same thing and they said "Yes" and then they went off and played.
I though, "Dang, how many times do I just quit after that first ask?"
Finding your people takes courage.
Lastly, make that bonfire a monthly thing. Just ask "How many of you want to make this a monthly thing?" I'll bet they all say yes.
Making it monthly means you'll actually meet every month and a half. That's just how scheduling goes. Then be intentional about building the group as you build into each other. Talk about your struggles, ask if you can offer advice, if they say yes, offer it. If not, don't. Then keep your eyes open:
"Hey, I met a guy named Greg, I think he'd like to join our group. How do ya'll feel about that? He's got a little farm outside of town, he asked if I like guns. Thought maybe we could go to his place next meet-up and kill some paper before the bonfire..."
It will grow. It'll probably grow bigger than you can handle.
Pevely,MO here!
Crestwood , Missouri