I have purchased Safelife Defense Hyperline IIIA with a concealable carrier. I wear it whenever I leave the house. Hardware store, worship, etc.
I obviously haven't tried "everything" and I'm not a YouTuber, so I can't really compare. But I can say that the Hyperline is thin, EXTREMELY lightweight, and concealable. https://safelifedefense.com/hyperline-level-iiia-panels It's what I use.
For more of a fashionable, wearable armor? https://innocentarmor.com/ These folks offer good "fashion" armor and I know several Operators and their wives who wear this type of stuff. Also good for "backpack panels" to put plate carriers into your kids' backpacks.