Why Our Marriage Was So Hard | Roles, Selfishness & Communication
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17-Sep-2026
Twenty years together—but their marriage wasn’t always this good.
John and Rebekah Lovell open up about the power struggles, selfishness, and communication mistakes that made their early years so difficult. John admits that leading men on a battlefield didn’t prepare him to lead well as a husband. Becka reflects on control, criticism, and what she learned about respect and submission.
From an argument over face wash to learning how to apologize, they share how faith, humility, mentorship, and hard work helped their marriage grow.
They also discuss biblical marriage roles, feminism, putting your spouse before your children, and why a flourishing marriage takes more than finding the “right person.”
What helped your marriage turn a corner? Share your experience in the comments.
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