Navy SEAL Ray “Cash” Care joins John Lovell for a hilarious, unfiltered, and seriously powerful conversation—covering the moment he almost quit BUD/S, the mindset shift behind “Don’t fear dying—fear not living,” discipline, faith, and why “hustle culture” can turn into a trap.

If you’re a man trying to get your life back under control—this one will hit.

In this episode:
• The “Steel Pier” BUD/S moment he almost quit — and what saved him
• The mental trick that kept him moving: make the impossible small (“outlast one guy”)
• The mindset shift: “Don’t fear dying—fear not living to your full potential”
• Pastor Hank’s simple prescription that helped him break destructive patterns: pushups until you “don’t want you anymore”
• Why “hustle culture” can be a trap: great 1–2 years, terrible 10 years (and what it costs men)
• Trading “success” for what matters: marriage, kids, presence, and goodness over greatness
• The root fear most men carry: “Am I enough?” and how it shows up in life
• Purpose, discipline, and the hardest habit of all: putting the phone down

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Follow Ray Cash Care:
Instagram: @raycashcare
Website: raycashcare.com

Chapters
0:00 Cold open + quick intro
0:52 The “naked lake swim” story
2:06 TV shows + representing the community
6:37 Why men need fear (and how to do it safely)
13:44 WarPoet App / Rally Point plug
14:36 What made him want to become a Navy SEAL
17:55 “I planned to quit…” (setting up the breaking point)
18:17 Steel Pier — the moment he almost quit BUD/S
20:10 The mental game: “Outlast that one guy”
22:05 Quitting is forever + “Don’t fear dying—fear not living”
24:00 Pastor Hank’s pushups: beating addiction + reclaiming discipline
29:53 Faith, vulnerability, marriage, and becoming “Cash 2.0”
32:25 Hustle culture: great 1–2 years, terrible 10 years
41:06 The legacy test: who’s at your bedside when it’s over
48:15 Fear of going back to old ways + “reverse engineering” decisions
50:40 The root fear in men: “Am I enough?”
53:50 The hardest discipline: putting the phone down
55:42 Classic roast session + texts, hospitality, and “nude dude” jokes
59:45 What he does now: business leadership coaching + AARs
1:04:43 Where to find Ray + final thoughts